Beyond Conversation: Meaningful Connection Through Presence
They may not speak, but they’re still present. Non-verbal doesn’t mean non-communicative. Here’s how to maintain deep connection without relying on words.
Reading Non-Verbal Communication:
Positive Engagement Signs:
✓ Eye contact (even brief)
✓ Leaning forward
✓ Relaxed face/body
✓ Reaching toward objects
✓ Vocalizations (humming, sounds)
✓ Mirroring your movements
Stress/Discomfort Signs:
❌ Turning away
❌ Closed eyes persistently
❌ Tense body
❌ Pushing away
❌ Agitated movements
❌ Facial grimacing
Non-Verbal Connection Activities:
Visual
• Photo albums (high contrast)
• Color choosing (point to preferences)
• Watching birds/nature videos
Tactile
• Texture exploration box
• Soft fabric squares
• Stress balls or putty
Musical
• Familiar songs playing
• Rhythm instruments
• Humming together
• Music videos from their era
Movement
• Gentle chair exercises
• Balloon batting
• Sorting soft objects
• Folding washcloths
The PRESENCE Protocol:
• Position yourself at eye level
• Respect their space
• Engage one sense at a time
• Speak softly, narrating actions
• Expect nothing specific
• Notice micro-responses
• Celebrate any engagement
• End when they indicate
Creating Communication Bridges:
- Yes/No questions with visual cues
- Choice-making with objects
- Comfort positioning
- Predictable routines
- Patience with response time
Your Words Still Matter: Even if they can’t respond verbally, hearing familiar voices activates memory centers. Narrate what you’re doing, share memories, express love.